How to get the women of your dreams

How to find the woman of your dreams. Approaching with confidence.

ā¯—Please read my pervious post for this post to make a little more sense.

In order to become successful with women first you must understand yourself and learn to love yourself. We live in a world that promotes perfection and that brainwashes you into thinking being a ken doll is what women prefer, which is completely false. This is just business in order to get you to buy products, clothing and cosmetics. But no more politics I promise. I also just want to point out that this is a topic that is very difficult to put into writing as there is so much to cover, but I’ll try my best.

Let me explain.

In order to be the king at approaching, meeting girls and really make it look easy is first to believe in yourself. This is because if you do not believe in yourself and the values you believe in how can you expect someone else to accept you, if you do not really accept yourself. I have approached women countless times where I was nervous and really did not believe in myself and the women can sense that. It’s not attractive and this is how you might land in the friend zone or the women may even give you their number out of pity.

I am not saying you have to be super confident (Arrogant or cocky ), have a lot of ambition and goals no. Just be yourself! For example, if you are a calm person and likes to take time when talking that’s fine or if you are full of energy and love to talk that’s also cool. Show off your personality, talk to her like you would talk to your friends, if you like to joke around and have banter that’s fine. But remember don’t go all in straight away. Go slow, she’s not going to run away from you and you are not on a timer. Slowly open up and show your personality remember you need to remain a mystery so let her do all the talking. I will talk about what to say and how to get her to do all the talking in the next post, this post is all about approaching with confidence. But remember women like a mysterious man. For example, I approached a girl I got her to open up about her entire life her hobbies, her fav music etc. I only talked about myself when she asked. That’s when I would go in to details but only when she asked or when I felt like I could relate or If I disagreed with something she said. If you feel like you BOTH have spoken a lot get her number or details, as if you spoken to her longer than 5 mins she should be comfortable enough to give you her number. Save some things for when you meet her do not show all your cards straight away.

How to approach

When approaching a girl do not stand there for 5 mins lingering around to build up the confidence to talk to her as I know you may be shy or worried what people around you might think. The difference is you’re the guy who has the balls to do what no other guy can. Keep this in your head. If you see a random girl you find attractive walking down the street, observe something that attracts you to her. If you like her hair or like the way she dresses anything it may be count to 2 seconds and just go for it! Dive in! Do not allow yourself to overthink. Otherwise you will freeze up and your future girl could just walk away.

When you stop the girl try stopping her in a calm and non treating way. You should say “Excuse me” while you keep eye contact to get her attention. Very important, have a cheeky smile not freaky! When you got her attention tell her what you think. I’ve written what works for me underneath, but please add your own personality to it to make it tailored for you. Remember what works for me might to work for you so do not copy word for word.

Hi I know this is a little random but I like the way you dress it reminds me of....” or “I like your shoes ….. ” or “I find you attractive… “ whatever it may be that you like about her.

Moving on this next step is very important!

After you say what you have to say, do not stop and do not wait for her to say thank you. Remember you do not need validation in order to start the conversation. I am sure you have been in a conversation where you told a girl she’s pretty and she’s replied “erm.. thank you“. You don’t want to start it off like that so you carry on talking

For example, “Hey I know this is a little random but I find you attractive and was intrigued to talk to you. I notice you have a Russian look to you.” she might reply “Oh no, I am actually English. What about me looks Russian?”

I will stop that there because the next topic will be about how to use the right questions and assumptions to have a fun and effortless conversation in order for it not to sound like an interview.

How to get the women of your dreams

How to get the woman of your dreams. Part 1- Mindset and intentions

If you are looking to just hookup with girls or play around and disrespect women please STOP READING NOW as this content is to find the women of your dreams by using a skillset which helps you achieve this.

This topic which I will be discussing is a whole new aspect of my life which I faced when I was a teenager and learned through trial and error, and believe me when I say a lot mistakes were made. I will be telling a story of my journey on how I found the woman of my dreams.

Let me explain.

I know you’re probably thinking I’m going to cover how to pick up women, knowing what to say, how to approach etc., I want to talk about these topics later on in my blog, as a lot of pick up artists actually do not tell you the best way to pick up women. They show what works for them and turn it in to a business. I want to explain, from my years of experience, the mindset you need to have in order to be successful with women. I learned this the hard way from many rejections and countless encounters.

Something I would like to mention is that whenever you approach a girl and get rejected it’s never the girls fault it’s something you did in order for the rejection to happen or she may not be into you the same way you’re into her and this is natural. You cannot trick someone into liking you. You can only be yourself.


What do I mean by mindset/intentions? Most guys who want to approach girls are doing it for the wrong reasons, when I started this was me included. The thing is, most guys just wants to get laid. Yes, sometimes you can get lucky when talking to girls. However, in order to get the girls which are 10/10, the women that you see walking across the street and you feel intimidated by. You get that butterfly feeling and you freeze as she walks past and the feeling of regret sinks in as you wish you had approached her. I know a hundred thoughts are in your mind telling you why you should not approach her, but these are the girls I will show you how to approach and have successful interactions with.

The first thing which is very vital is that your mind should not be set on getting something from her such as getting her phone number or social media. In fact this should be the last thing on your mind. I know no matter how hot she may be you need to suppress these thoughts in order have a good interaction. Because remember you would not give your number to someone who makes you feel uncomfortable. She should not feel like you’re a salesperson pitching to her on the street in order to get something out of her. The mindset and intention you should have is just to find out more ABOUT HER and talk-less in order to find out more about her. This is what guys tend to forget. They do all the talking, it’s natural as they get nervous so they talk about themselves peacocking and showing off in order to impress the girl. This rarely works and if it does work for you, you do not want that sort of girl around you for long. Remember the girl should accept you for the values you hold and your personality. However, looks are important too, so fellas be the best you and show confidence!

The idea is to not come across desperate and not going in there with a bunch of questions you may have. There are ways to ask questions to get a better repose rather than making her feel like it’s an interview. This I will get to later on, but today we are purely talking about the intention. This is the biggest thing you need to correct in order to have that amazing connection. If you can get this step right it will allow you to approach women like it is second nature. This also eliminates any expectation you may have when approaching her as even if she rejects you, you had no expectation to begin with.

Before you even approach the girl you need to suppress all the sexual thoughts and have a mindset of “Okay, this girl is obviously attractive I just want to know little more about her”. There has been some cases where I have approached a girl and no matter how pretty she may be when I started the initial interaction I was put of by the information she gave me or her thoughts and views on things or even the way she sounded when she was talking to me. This is when I realised that I was attracted to her before I spoke to her but when I observed her I started to realise the attraction was slowly fading and that HOT girl walking down the street was not as attractive anymore.

Please make sure you think about this the next time you talk to a girl. No mater how much you want to impress the girl just think about your intention with this girl you are about to approach. Make sure you are coming from a place of sincerity and genuenly getting to know who she is. This way you will be able to find out if she’s a girl you would like to know more about and whether she is compatible with you.

Also, if she says she has a boyfriend just move on trust me there are plenty of girls out there. Although, there are ways to get past this but honestly this is not what this blog is about, just move on. This could also be a polite way of saying she is not interested. So remember no means no! Don’t be a persistent salesperson who won’t take no for an answer. It lowers you value and comes across as annoying and unattractive!

The reason why I emphasise on having a clear mindset when approaching women is that no matter how smart you think you may be, women can smell bullshit from a mile away. So if you are not genuinely being yourself and having a clear intention then you sabotage yourself before you even start the interaction. Remember women likes someone who is confident enough to love themselves. They see this through your energy, through the way you speak and through the way you carry yourself. For example, if you give a presentation on something you are passionate about and believe in you do not care what people’s opinions are because you believe in it yourself. This is therefore the mindset you should have when you approach women as this is an attractive trait to have.